Now that you’ve learned the steps, its time to use the tools of recovery in your daily life.  This is an ongoing process.
  • CoDA Tools of Recovery: (Click links for more info)
    • Meetings – A place where we learn about ourselves and discover a new freedom from our self-defeating behaviors.
    • Fellowship – We surround ourselves with others in recovery. – Through CoDA fellowship, we have a network of support where we can be ourselves without seeking approval and validation, and without fear of judgement.
    • Telephone & Group Chat– Codependency is a disease of isolation. We use our meeting phone list or meeting group chat to talk to our fellow CoDA members for a means of support and communication between meetings.
    • Sponsorship – We cannot recover alone.
    • Abstinence – We abstain from obsessive, compulsive relationships.
    • Anonymity – Anonymity means what we share with another CoDA member will be confidential and held in respect.
    • Literature – Reading CoDA literature between meetings helps aid our progress.
    • Writing – Journaling, Step Work, Letters, and Affirmations: When we put our difficulties down on paper, we can see situations, and perhaps answers, more clearly.
    • Service – We grow in recovery when we use our abilities to help reach other codependents who still suffer. Without CoDA service, our fellowship would cease to exist.
    • Prayer & Meditation – We remember that codependency affects us on a deep spiritual level. Prayer and meditation helps us reconnect with our Higher Power and ourselves.
  • The Serenity Prayer – Recite daily – Full prayer as explained in AA
  • CoDA Recovery Prayer
  • Affirmations – “I am the hero of my own life!”  Affirmations help overcome old beliefs and empower us to CHOOSE new ones.  A great source of affirmations is to use the recovery patterns specific to our own codependent behaviors. 
  • Recovery Activity Checklist – Helps with being diligent in recovery self-care.   This checklist is a a daily reminder of the recovery tools you have available.  Affirmations should really be added to this list.
  • Step 10 Checklist – A daily suggested personal inventory (Word Doc)
  • Communication & Recovery 
  • Dealing With Disagreements
  • Establishing Boundaries in Recovery
  • The Relationship Toolkit – Ideal for people in a committed relationship.  Utilizes the 12 traditions as a basis for harmonious co-existence.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES