What is Co-dependence (Continued)
Somewhere along the road we learn about co-dependence. We hear about it from a friend or therapist. We see it in the news. Many of us wonder if co-dependence describes who we are.
Co-dependence is a disease that deteriorates our soul. It affects our personal lives, our families, children, friends, and relatives; our businesses and careers; our health, and our spiritual growth. It is debilitating, and if left untreated, causes us to become more destructive to ourselves and others. Many of us come to a point when we must look beyond ourselves for help.
When we attend our first meeting of Co-Dependents Anonymous, many of us find a source for help. Each of us arrives here from different directions. Some of us are urged by family members or friends. Some of us come to CoDA when our physicians, psychiatrists, or therapists see the need. Many of us reach CoDA’s doorstep after treatment for co-dependence or other addictions.
Whether it’s crisis or curiosity that brings us to CoDA, many of us learn about the characteristics of co-dependence at our first meeting. These characteristics help us to determine what unhealthy patterns weave in and out of our lives. Do we live in extremes instead of balance? How do we, our mates, children and friends suffer because of our behaviors? Do our codependent behaviors cause our relationships to stagnate, deteriorate or destruct? If the answers to these soul-searching questions cause us to admit, “I am codependent and I need help,” then we’re beginning to locate recovery’s path.
It all begins with an honest look at ourselves.